Mediating children’s issues
Research shows that if parents can co-operate with each other, children can cope better with their parents separation than when their parents continue to be in conflict.
Mediation can help separated couples reach a settlement, but importantly, particularly when children are involved, mediation can help parents find ways of co-operating in the future. Mediation can:
- Give parents the opportunity to explore their children’s needs and preferences.
- Help find ways to preserve working relationships with the other as a parent.
- Help identify ways of communicating in the future.
- Help parents discuss detailed plans, for instance, bedtime routines and ideas about discipline.
- Give parents an opportunity to explore issues that are not particularly legal and cannot be determined by the court, for instance differing views on how you bring the children up and how you deal with those differences.
- Give parents a voice.
- Increase learning about children’s needs and co-parenting in the future, helping parents understand that they need to find a way of co-operating forever.
- Help inform parents and children about what is happening in a co-operative age-appropriate way
From a child’s point of view, parents need to be able to cooperate. The more that parents can co-operate, the less the damage to children associated with separation and the more easily they can develop without problems.